Away…

I won’t be posting for a few days. If I don’t make it back in time for Friday… have a wonderful, love filled, spectacular Valentine’s Day!!!

Remember… make the effort! If you loved them once… you can love them again. If you have your eye on someone and they are unattached… then go for the GOLD! If you are already in a loving relationship… Look into their eyes and remind them you are their one and only! And if you’re single like me??? Know that you are in good company and go do something nice for yourself!!

Spread the love!

Reach Out And Touch Someone

Hug

 

Touching, hugging, and holding hands…

I had already written a post on hugging and touching which I planned to put up this week… when all of a sudden on CBS Sunday Morning News this week there was an entire segment on the topic. I had to laugh. Great minds think alike.

There are people all over the country who charge $60 an hour to cuddle with you. Psychologists, researchers, and authorities have been saying for years how important touching and human contact is to us and our well-being.

These professional ‘cuddlers and snugglers’ provide a valuable service. There are ground rules… nothing sexual, clothes stay on, everyone must be comfortable, no kissing. Simply hugging and cuddling. Standing up, laying down… whatever the customer wants.

I get it. I TOTALLY get it!!! When I’ve had a rough day a huge hug is exactly what is needed to make things all right. No one has to speak, I’m not expecting any one to ‘fix’ my problems… just CONNECT. That’s it… human connection. That is one of the largest draw backs to being single.

Although personally cuddling and snuggling with a total stranger would creep me out… I can see how others might find it OK. Let’s just say this is not a job I’m going to run right out and sign up for.

Researchers have found that the simple act of holding hands can lower heart rate and blood pressure… in addition to boosting your immune system and relieving pain. Wow!! All that from simply holding hands.

Another fascinating fact about touching… experts followed sports teams, football and basketball. They counted how many times the players touched each other during a game and in practice. The teams that touched the most did the best and scored the most points during the season. Amazing!!

Your exercise this week is to make every effort to touch your significant other. Grab their hand every chance you get… no, don’t just grab it… walk hand in hand. Sneak up behind them and wrap your arms around them and pull them into your embrace. In bed lightly run your fingers up and down their bare arm… or their cheek. Expect absolutely NOTHING in return.

Huddle up and cuddle up this month… and see what a huge difference it makes in your relationship!

The Teddy Bear Must Die!!

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner… so if you are going to give a gift you had better start thinking about it NOW!! The best gifts EVER come from the heart… and the best news of all is that the really special gifts hardly empty your wallet. If you were to ask people what their most favorite Valentine gift was… I bet the first thing that came to mind would NOT be A Dozen Long Stemmed Roses (Frugal hint… they are usually half price on the 15th).

Remember… this is your special ‘someone’. Unless he/she hinted at something specific… then it’s time you thought ‘outside the box’.

Statistics expect over 223 million roses will be given to loved ones this Valentine’s Day. Really? Would that make your significant other feel special? One in 223 million???

And don’t even THINK about Pajama-grams or Vermont Teddy Bears… unless you are 100% certain that will make your sweetie swoon with delight.

Sometimes ‘less is more’. Instead of a huge floral bouquet.. how about one single, spectacular, perfect rose? Or… rose petals strewn over the bed, or better yet floating in a hot bubble bath… with champagne chilling in a nearby ice bucket, soft music playing on the stereo, with nothing but lit candles to light the way. Oh… and turn your cell phones OFF!!

What most people want for Valentine’s Day is to be appreciated. To be singled out as your ‘special someone’. To spend undivided time with you. To have you do something for them that shows you THOUGHT only of them and what would make them happy. To cherish them… if only for a day.

Apparently I am in the minority. Valentine’s Day is my most hated holiday of all on the calendar… and not just because I am single. I have felt this way FOREVER! I am embarrassed by receiving gifts just because I love someone and they me. Their love is my gift… as mine is to them… nothing else can compare. No amount of money can buy anything more special than that. Obviously not everyone agrees with me. According to statistics… 53% of women would end a relationship if they didn’t get a gift for Valentine’s Day. Really!!! I’m not kidding!!!

Over the years I have gotten some bizarre gifts for this holiday… including 6 baby chicks one year and a bed pillow from K-Mart the first year I was married. 40 years later and I still don’t get the significance of the pillow. But the gift that knocked me off my feet… and is still near and dear to my heart… and brings tears of tenderness to my eyes when I think about it… is a chocolate cake… made from a 99 cent boxed mix and iced from a can… placed proudly in the middle of a fully set table to be shared after cooking a meal together. Now THAT was a special, well thought out gift.

So… let’s get to it everyone!! Take a moment to kick back and really give some thought to what you hope to convey this Valentine’s Day. If spending money is the way you show your love… then pick up the phone and order a custom piece of jewelry. If ‘thoughtful’ or ‘budget’ is more your style… then break out the construction paper, scissors, and glue and make an old-fashioned Valentine. Whatever you choose… make it PERSONAL!

Oh… and just so you know… it is estimated that about 11,000 babies are conceived on Valentine’s Day… in case you need that information 🙂

Make it a good one!!!

I’ll Have What She’s Having

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Oh my! I have certainly come a long way baby!!! A few years ago there was no way in H-E-Double Hockey Sticks I would have posted this next topic. Things change, people change, and you know what… I’m not even embarrassed by it. Five years ago I would have blushed brighter than a neon sign… but now? Nope.

It’s Friday… and I promised I would help to make your weekend a little more… pleasurable. Tonight I am broaching the subject of the Female Orgasm. Orgasmic Meditation to be exact. A 15 minute calm yet deep explosion of pleasure. Well, at least that is what I’m led to believe. As a single girl I am unable to test out this research.

This is an exercise to be shared between couples. It’s totally for the female… however many men receive pleasure from the experience (again, so I’m told)… as he has an important function.

First watch Nicole Daedone’s (author of Slow Sex) TedTalk… HERE… where she explains what this is all about. I think you will find it interesting. THEN go to her website OneTaste to see a video of how it’s done and get a better understanding of the process and what you gain from the experience.

Due to my research on PTSD I’ve learned a lot about the brain, chemicals in the brain, and what gets released when. Orgasm is good for both men and women in so many ways… not only just for pleasure, but for mental health as well. Who knew?? BTW… one of the most intriguing facts I learned is Rutgers University has an Orgasm Research Lab!!! The only one in the country. They have Orgasm Researchers too! Wow! Now THERE’S a job I bet you never thought existed.

I gotta tell ya guys… this could go down in the record books as being the best Valentine’s Day gift EVER!!! It sure beats getting a Vermont Teddy Bear!!

Normally I love getting comments and emails from you all… but I beg of you… PLEASE do not tell me if you tried this and how it all turned out. It would be like telling a blind man how beautiful the sunset is that he’s missing. All of my research has been scientific and clinical… giving it a personal edge would just embarrass me. A simple Thank You is sufficient.

However… that being said… I DO thank you for all the emails you have send so far!!! I love hearing that you are trying to re-connect and it seems to be working. It’s encouraging for me to know I made you ‘wake up’ and showed you that love is there if you work at it. If only ONE couple walks away this month closer to each other and more in love than they were in the beginning… then I’m a very happy person!!!

BTW… Did you get the movie reference in the title?? Jot your answer in the comment section if you know the movie.

Have a WONDERFUL weekend!

 

Does Love At First Sight Exist?

Do you believe in ‘Love at First Sight?’

Researchers at Ohio State University did a study and found that yes… Love at first sight DOES exist. The results proved that men and women both size up their potential mate and know within 2 minutes if they were interested in moving forward. TWO MINUTES!!! Wow! Following the subjects for nine weeks proved the relationships turned out exactly the way they predicted.

Biological Anthropologist and Research Professor at Rutgers University Helen Fisher believes early humans needed to make connections quickly as they had shorter life spans… and our brains are still wired that way today. She believes if you feel a quick connection… Go for it! BTW she has a fabulous talk titled The Brain In Love if you are interested. She mentions ‘Love at first sight’ about half way through.

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So there… scientific proof falling in love can happen in a heartbeat. Speed dating is a result of all this testing.

Although… the Ohio State University scientists are quick to add people may be able to make up their minds about love when they first meet, but to keep the relationship strong they need to work at it… or it could fail.

My own experience of ‘love at first sight’ was one-sided… and not on MY side. While on a cruise the Executive Chef told me he fell madly in love with me at first sight. Yeah, right… I’m sure he says that once a week with every fresh group of cruisers. I didn’t fall for it. Besides… there were only 3 single women on board the entire ship under the age of 70, and I was one of the few without gray hair.

His name was Zomie, and although he made my cruise beyond exciting with marzipan roses on my dinner plate, custom cooked omelette in the morning, and private tours of the galley… It wasn’t love at first sight for me. I thought he was trying to obtain a ‘green card’… or at the very least a little ‘sumpthin, sumpthin’ if you know what I mean.

He continued to pursue me, even after I left the cruise… and we remained email friends for three years after. There is nothing better than waking up each morning to an email that began… “Good Morning Princess” or “Hello Light of my Life”. However, when I refused to visit his ship every time he came near the US he finally began to believe me when I constantly told him I wasn’t interested in him ‘that way’.

So tell me… How did you meet the love of your life??? Was it love at first sight? Or did you have to ‘ease’ your way into the relationship?

Your Love Story

Oh… The weather outside is frightful… and the fire is so delightful… and if you’ve no place to go… Let it SNOW, Let it SNOW, Let it SNOW!!!

In anticipation of cold, icy weather due here in the Northeast the next few days… I researched the BEST movies for you and your sweetie to watch together. Pop some popcorn, and snuggle up on the couch. Be sure to place the bowl of buttery, salty goodness on a lap… all the better to reach… and don’t forget to lick your fingers (seductively if you can).

Or better yet… make it a bed picnic!!! Oh how I LOVE bed picnics!!! Usually reserved for hot summer nights when the only room with air conditioning is the bed room… but they are just as much fun in the winter too! Prop those pillows up and watch the movies in bed… with a little snack. Oh what fun!!!

It’s so easy nowadays to watch whatever you want, whenever you want!! Hit up Netflix, Hulu, or Amazon Instant Stream. If you have a little extra time, check out the movies for FREE at your local library… or hit up Redbox (there is always a free coupon code on the Internet somewhere for them).

As I looked around I found pretty much the same movies on each list, just in a different order. Out of the top 15 movies… I had seen them all but 3… so this afternoon I kicked back, plugged the computer into an outlet… and cried my way through 2 of them. Hey, I was working!!

Here’s a compilation of sweet, sappy, love movies culled from 10 lists… in no particular order.

The Lucky One

Nights In Rodanthe

Crazy, Stupid Love

The Vow

Serendipity

Time Traveler’s Wife

Bridget Jones’ Diary

Going the Distance

A Walk to Remember

PS I Love You

Love Actually

Brokeback Mountain

The Notebook

Sleepless in Seattle

You’ve Got Mail

My personal favorite is The Princess Bride… adapted from the book written by William Goldman. It’s not too sappy, and there’s a lot of fun and action to keep everyone happy. It’s a family classic!! You will find yourself forever after saying… “My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.” The love story of course weaves in and out with, “As you wish.” Ah… devotion. You just gotta love it!

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Oh… and if you lose electricity??? Great! Light some candles, cuddle up to keep warm and TALK to each other. Remind each other of the first time your eyes met, your first date, your first impression. Talk about your dreams for the future, no matter how silly. Tell your significant other what you like MOST about them. Create your own love story. Remember… you all fell in love at one time. Life most likely took over and got in the way. You need to put that all aside and revisit the early years… the ‘starry eyed’ years. The years you couldn’t live without each other… and you couldn’t keep your hands to yourself.

The most ‘intimate’ I have ever felt was when lying next to the man of my dreams on top of the bed, fully clothed, I shared my dreams and secret desires. All pretense was stripped away. Lying side by side, staring at the ceiling as I bared my soul. It was awesome!!!

For all the single people out there like me… grab a box of tissues and have a movie marathon. Consider it ‘homework’ for when you DO have a significant other.

What’s YOUR all time favorite LOVE STORY???